Newly-engaged actress Brenda Song gave a candid interview to The Cutabout how she manages her career and home life with her partner, Macaulay Culkin, and their nine-month-old son, Dakota.
Song was
honest about her transition going back to work at 12 weeks postpartum. “I was trying to do it all,” she said. “That was really difficult.” Song revealed the two do not have a nanny, but her mother has been with them, helping the new parents out.
“My fiancé and I are very hands-on,” she said, subtly confirming their recent engagement. “We don’t have a nanny, but my mom has been here with us since my son was born. He’s 9 months old now. When I was working, my mom would bring him to set so I could breastfeed and see him during the day. People tell you a lot about labor and pregnancy, but not about the fourth trimester. To my girlfriends that are pregnant I say, make sure you have help. Because your instinct is to want to do it all and you physically can’t.”
She also touched on how the couple supports and keeps each other grounded.
“My [fiancé] and I always get into bed and chat about our days and the next day,” she said. “When I was working he’d wake up with me to chat. Now we do it at night, after our son goes down. It calms me. It sounds small, but I cherish it. It’s nice to wind down with someone you love.”
With household duties, “I think when you and your partner have kids, especially the first few months, you don’t have the patience to be polite with each other,” she said. “Being communicative when you need help is so important. Instead of having set duties, we just feel each other out. I’ll be putting my son down and my partner is like, ‘Let me feed the animals and get dinner ready.’”
You can read Song's full interview here.