“I
feel like you’re so close yet so far away. To me, it’s as though you’re just bodily present.” She would lament to her partner who in turn looks perplexed and
If you’ve found yourself in this situation, it’s not uncommon or exclusive to your relationship. Legend has it that men are from Mars and women from Venus, know this and know peace. Simply put, men and women react differently to similar situations. Over time, this gender difference has remained ignored leaving a perplexed train of individuals asking the age-old question; “What do women really want from men?”
In this article, we have dared to answer this question. Note however that every individual varies and how this is a good place to start, it is by no means the absolute list. That is to say that you should communicate with your partner to figure out what she really wants at different times. Now that we have that out of the way, let this guide get you started on the right path.
Check out 7 things most women might want in men…
#1. A man who is sure of himself
There’s a thin line between being egotistical and confident, and women can tell just by the energy a man gives off. It doesn’t matter if she’s a strong woman who has her own, a confident man who believes in himself and exudes a healthy amount of self worth is absolutely appealing to a woman. No woman wants a man who’s unsure of his capabilities and unwilling to grow.
#2. A man who has a healthy sense of humor
Most of the time when you ask a lady what she wants in a man, you’re bound to hear: “A man who makes me laugh.” Note that, the relationship isn’t expected to become an open mic night but we all fancy someone with whom we can be childlike around, one that doesn’t take things too seriously and we can make jokes with. Honestly, almost no one wants to be around a man who gets offended at harmless jokes. It gets stiff and exhausting eventually. Live a little brother, life’s not that serious after all.
#3. A man with integrity
Even beyond relationships, integrity is a well sought-after trait. Every woman wants to be able to vouch for her man. When you say a thing, be sure to follow through with it. There are few things more attractive than this.
#4. A man who is emotionally intelligent
You might be the C.E.O of a fortune 500 company and still be unintelligent when it comes to emotions. Being aware that physical or financial strength shouldn’t replace sensitivity, empathy and kindness is a great step towards a healthy relationship. As much as women want this in a man, it’s paramount to note that this input into the relationship goes both ways.
#5. A mature man
There are lots of petty individuals roaming and the word ‘savage’ has sadly become cool. There’s a common case of using the personal information of your partner to spite them during a misunderstanding. A woman wants to feel secure and once that is in place, she starts to view the man as trustworthy and that includes feeling safe in allowing him make decisions for both of you.
#6. A man who keeps the spirit of adventure alive
It’s true that it’s not the man’s sole responsibility to continually spice up the relationship but that both parties be involved. Nonetheless, men are often known to be more rational than emotional and after the ‘chase’ they calm down and become either comfortable and/or nonchalant. Women want the men in their lives to show that he’s committed to the relationship and whatever it takes to keep things exciting. Being adventurous and spontaneous is a plus and expedient for relationship growth, all within rational boundaries of course.
#7. A man who is genuinely attracted to her
Some men make everything about sex. Take a short trip to the salon and the ladies talk going on in there might be an eye opener. You’d hear things like; “He doesn’t even care if I orgasm. “He only notices my hair or dress when he’s horny.” “Since I gave birth, he seldom ever compliments me.” The list is endless but one thing is common and that’s a perceived decline in attraction. Of course, this may not be true but considering that ladies love attention, it’s important to keep making her feel loved, special, wanted, and appealing.
This quote from the author of the book; “Men are from Mars. Women are from Venus” is an apt way to conclude this write up.
“Love is magical, and it can last, if we remember our differences.” ~John Gray
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